Are you aware of what drives you to react?
|Do you ever find yourself in a state of overwhelm? Just constant wave after wave and its like you don’t have time to settle back down? The moment-to-moment struggles can get ahold of all of us, especially if we can’t keep ahold of what is happening, and the issues you’re dealing with become a spiral in your mind. Where does it start? Where does it end? |
That kind of overwhelm becomes burnout at work, anxiety, and depression, to spit the first that come to mind.
We have Neurofeedback in our office from a non-drug approach, the medical approach has pharmaceuticals, but we want to tell you something you can do for free at home. Mindfulness.
Mindfulness: attending to the self. Paying attention to you. Processing your experience. Present mind consciousness. There are so many ways to say looking and evaluating what is taking place in your head.
Now before you start thinking “Dr. Brad are you seriously trying to tell me to think about what I’m thinking about…” Well actually…Yes
There is a tendency to escape anything you perceive to be negative. Avoid. Ignore. Set behind you, etc.
By all means process and move past things but if you try to shove past something in your mind without paying attention to it, it doesn’t go away it becomes a spiral, like we talked about.
Mindfulness is about making a conscious effort to pay attention to a moment to find out how you feel and what you are thinking without judging yourself for it. The goal isn’t to solve all your worlds problems in an instant but to pay attention to something about yourself (maybe breathing, thoughts, or the way your food tastes) to allow yourself to pause and come back to the present moment.
This is something you can try right now. Stop what you’re doing, take a moment and stretch. As you’re stretching think about what needs stretching. Now, check in with what kinds of thoughts you’re having? Positive? Negative? Frantic? Calm? Whatever you’re thinking, it’s ok. There’s no need to approve or disapprove of these thoughts just note that they’re there.
The goal of this continued exercise is that you have awareness, acceptance, and the ability to be present with your life. There are many different kinds of mindfulness exercises but the benefits of making them a habit are significant:
• Reduced rumination
• Stress reduction
• Decreased anxiety and emotional reactivity
• Better focus and attention
• Relationship satisfaction
This is something I use to handle the many pressures of life, something my team uses to stay present with patients, and it’s something I would recommend to anyone to be in charge of their own emotion and reactive habits. If you want to look into a directed and accountable approach to creating resilience and confidence, here is a great website to get you started if you want to try this for yourself: https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/
|“You can’t stop the waves but you can learn how to surf.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn|